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12/12/2012 7:18:32 AM
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Girls...
So Flood, I've been friends with this girl for the past several months -that is, since school began- and we've hung out, talked a lot, and I had liked her for sometime-though no longer. Anyways, her and several other girls have told me I'm awesome, have told me I'm a sweet guy, and that some girl's is going to be swept off her feet by me one day.
Yet, what I don't understand is why wouldn't one of those girls want to date a guy like me if I am what they say I am? I certainly don't mean to make this some sort of gosh @#!*% pity party, but, I guess I wonder why girls say these things, but they don't seem to see that a guy like me is datable. Why even say it in the first place?
Any thoughts Flood? I'm kind of at a loss.
[Edited on 12.12.2012 12:46 AM PST]
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Anyone can have manners and show basic signs of respect. Wanna know why, [i]in general[/i] girls won't go out with a guy just because her friends say he's awesome? Because she's just not that into you. Maybe you're boring or smell. Maybe you follow her around like a lost puppy, looking for a relationship, then wondering why she won't pet you and take you home. Your intention should be to relearn how to approach someone of the female gender. Being respectful doesn't make you an exception. People should expect that kind of treatment from others. I'm not going to date the next guy that holds a door for me, so why should she? As for my "girlfriends" saying that some dude is awesome, I really don't care. I'm not going after every guy they give the [i]slightest[/i] recommendation for. Women are not vending machines that accept compliments and general manners in exchange for some ass. [quote][b]Posted by:[/b] Doctor Jensen [quote][b]Posted by:[/b] cortana 5 You're going in with your main intention being that you're trying to develop a relationship. You're taking compliments the wrong way because you're looking for a relationship, and when rejected, you claim to have these awesome relationship credentials. I think I found your issue. [quote][b]Posted by:[/b] Doctor Jensen Don't get me wrong, I don't feel entitled to a relationship. It's simply frustrating to work hard to attempt to develop a relationship with a girl, have all these nice things told to me, then nothing ever comes of it. I'm not some amazing guy, but I cant treat a woman better than half the guys I know.[/quote][/quote]All I said was that I simply could treat a guy better than half the guys I know. That means, manners, respect, that kind of stuff. As for the compliments, when I typed it out, my intent was to wonder why girls [i]in general[/i] wouldn't want to date a guy who my friends who are girls have said is awesome. I don't know why I asked about them. Tired I guess, but regardless. Should my intention be for friendship then? The friendzone is a dangerous place.[/quote]
